A loved one has experienced sexual violence

Guidance on supporting a survivor of sexual violence

If someone close to you has experienced sexual violence, you may feel unsure about how best to support them. This is completely understandable. Below are some practical ways you can help and support your loved one during this difficult time.

How to support a loved one

  • Listen carefully and without judgement. Avoid pressing for details—they may not feel ready to share everything.
  • Avoid asking “why” questions, such as “Why did you go there?” or “Why were you drinking?”
  • Respect their decisions, including whether or not to contact the police.
  • Be patient. Avoid suggesting that they should “move on” or forget what happened.
  • Show that you believe and trust them.
  • Allow them to express their emotions, including crying or anger, even if this feels difficult for you.

Read more: How to support a friend or family member who has experienced sexual violence